It’s not true that ‘Nice Guys Finish Last’. Not entirely that is. There is ALWAYS a place for sincerity, respect, showing basic care, concern and being a gentleman. This is to make it clear to those who think that acting like a jerk and complete asshole will gain you more female admiration. The answer is a flat-out NO.
My definition of ‘nice guy’ here is more on the lines of someone who is a pushover, naive and with tendency to allow people to step all over him.
I think that one of the main characteristics that sets apart nice guys from bad boys is the fact that nice guys tend to be overly eager to please and win their object of affection, to the point that they appear to be submissive lap dogs. Ok, I’m stating a stereotypically extreme example, but you get the drift. For many girls, what attracts them to the bad boy is his independent, calm, confident image. In short, the ‘I don’t give a fuck what people think’ attitude. This kind of attitude somehow creates a subtle aura of inaccessiblity and attractiveness.
When wooing, it’s very important to give, but also withhold some at the same time (i.e give 70% but always keep 30%). This helps attract someone to you, but at the same time, you can give off that ‘there’s something more about me’ vibe which will make you more exciting to them. What’s the point of baring your heart fully to someone and then not have anything more to offer? Bad boys win over nice guys in this coz they manage to give off that ‘vibe’.
Another area is assertiveness. I personally find that many of those who fall into the ‘nice guy’ category tend to not be hard-headed and assertive in getting what they want. This may be due to lack of confidence but I’m not too sure. Not letting someone climb on top of your head and showing who’s boss is important.
Oh and, Mummy’s Boys are not cool. Highly important to show love and respect to your mother, which is entirely different from letting her dictate your entire life. Yes, she may defend it by saying it’s love but it’s not so sweet when mom lords over everything to the point you wind up becoming single for the rest of your life, due to her intense scrutiny of each and every woman you date. Any guy who’s not overly ‘nice’ would know when it’s appropriate to say ‘yes’ and ‘no’ to Mummy.
That being said, my belief is that it’s best to be both a ’bad boy’ and ‘nice’ guy. A nice balance of each. This is not impossible, seeing that we manipulate and adapt out behaviours all the time. Oh and one more thing which I’ve forgot to mention earlier, every girl has different preferences, so it’s all about finding someone who’s right for you too.
Continuing on the above note, I used to collect expensive 12″ action figures with my dad.
